Pain Body - Inner Child

The Inner Child

The Inner Child

The Inner Child is a child like part of us that lives within us despite our biological age. This is the part that keeps us young, playful, excitable, curious, full of wonder, open to new possibilities, trusting, innocent, truthful, willing to take risks and embrace life. Its a wonderful part of us that brings freshness and playfulness to our life. If our inner child is healthy, happy and content because of the parenting that we were fortunate to get, then everything is fine and you will not be reading this article now. If you are reading this article it is very likely that your inner child is not happy & content, that your inner child is a Wounded Child, Orphan Child or an Abused Child. Our Inner Child is linked to our physical body, so how you look after your basic physical needs would be a good indicator of your relationships with your inner child. Our inner child is also linked to our EMOTIONS and FEELINGS. If you are feeling depressed, emotionally sad and weepy, or just having low mood - all these feelings can be linked to the Wounded Inner Child who has been activated within you through a trigger event.

The Wounded Inner Child

The wounded inner child lives within many adults, some are consciously healing the wounds and some are just getting by in hope that the problems and feelings would just one day disappear. Unfortunately this is not how it works as these unresolved feelings, emotions, self-defeating behaviours, low sense of self continuously interfere with and can even ruin our relationships, career plans, life plans, dreams, & aspirations and make our life uncomfortable. We need to heal our wounded inner child and become good parents to him/her. We do this with the help of a professional therapist, self-help courses, books, workshops and our own effort to learn new skills how to become an encouraging and nurturing parent to our inner child. If we don't do this, we would continue acting out dysfunctional behaviours that we learnt in childhood in order to survive and adapt to the dysfunctional family dynamics.

Helpful reading for Inner Child Healing

Healing The Inner Child

The Wounded Inner Child is connected to our pain body (2nd chakra at the naval) where we also have Soul wounds. It is important to distinguish between Soul Wounds and the Inner Child Wounds especially as these wounds are interchangeable.

Soul wounds are generally related to ancestral, karmic, past, future lives, our soul purpose, galactic history, and are felt deep in our hearts - the lingering pain or reoccurring issue that gives us the existential sense of anxiety, ache, something deep and black whole like inside us that we cannot make sense of.

The Inner Child wounds are more related to our feelings, emotions, sense of self, relationships and our parental upbringing e.g., forced or false identities that we keep acting out in our lives, self-defeating or self-sabotaging behaviours.

To heal the Inner Child we need to identify the core issue that our inner child struggles with and allow the inner child to freely express the supressed feelings and emotions whilst we are witnessing him/her with love and acceptance. Step two is to learn how to parent our inner child and to recognise the sighs where our inner child is in distress and requires our attention. This means learning how to look after oneself in a new way and how to set healthy boundaries with others, so that the inner child feels safe and protected. There is a very good classic book on how to heal your inner child by Charles Whitfield that provides useful information and tools on the nature of the wounding, common symptoms and healing tools that can be applied in day to day setting.

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